Keep Your Vibe Open and Deal with Disrespect?

Ok...J is out of town and I went out for a bit last night. I just wanted to have a few drinks, laugh with good friends and enjoy myself.

Twice I got asked by men I've never seen before, "Are you married?"

And that's okay...they're gonna ask. My answer to that is always "I'm happily in love."

I think what I said is a good way to explain someone like me. Not married, no desire to be married and yet very much in love with my guy.

Why does that seem to be a signal to men that they can keep it up? Do you have to be married to be off limits?

I'm a pretty outgoing person and my vibe is almost always open. I love meeting people, laughing and having a good time. I realize sometimes, when J isn't around, that can translate to "she's available" and I'm willing to deal with that and explain my situation anytime.

But once I explain, shouldn't that be their signal to let it go?

I mean really? Somehow that means men just need to try a little harder?

What's up with that?

Are we a society so plagued by cheating and sneaking around that it is common place for a woman to be open to whatever when her man isn't around.

I hope there are some men out there who can weigh in on this.

When a girl is taken...in love...happy...secure...and for the night, alone...

Do you back off or do you keep it up?

Wouldn't you rather focus on someone who is available? Or is it the challenge of getting someone else's girl that's so appealing?

Is it the knowledge that she's going back to someone else and won't include any strings that is the attraction?

Is it even really disrespectful or am I making too much of this?

I'm really curious.

Ladies...have you experienced this and does it irritate you as much as it irritates me?

Did I just meet a couple of trained pickup artists? Or are most guys like this?

UGH!!

I just wanted to have fun!

Much Love,
Mercedes