Great Relationships Really DO Exist

I have come across several people in the last few months that really believe great relationships are a myth. They doubt anyone and everyone who claims to be truly happy with their partner. They don’t believe it can honestly be “that easy”. I’m here today to suggest to you that these relationships DO exist and that they really are that easy.

They exist without compromises.

They exist without pain.

They exist without conflict.

They exist without disagreements.

(To all those out there who believe “all healthy couples have disagreements”, I’m here to challenge YOU to lose that pesky little limiting belief and BELIEVE this can happen for you too!)

It’s funny to me when I see how many people are in such a quick rush to believe relationships have to be so much work and you have to compromise and there must be conflict and yet it’s like pulling teeth to get them to believe it can be AWESOME! I recommend each of you look around and check out the relationships of those women and men who are super happy and pattern yourself and your thoughts after them. Read what they have to say. Really HEAR them. Commit to meditating on their teachings, to learning from them, to getting exactly what YOU want out of life and relationships.

To name just a few you might want to look at some of my favorites:

Tinque and K are so much like J and I they scare me sometimes. (tinque – our specialist in sex - is at www.sexandheart.com)

Rori Raye and her husband are in wedded bliss. (see Rori’s relationship work at www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com)


Drs Steve and Vera Bodansky who specialize in the study of sensuality and the power of orgasm (find out more at www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com)

Countless others are out here telling everyone they too can have bliss in their relationships…that they too can have so much fun…that they too can hold on to their desires and never have to compromise again…that they too can literally coast through life with the partner of their dreams.

Yet there is so much resistance and I just don’t get that.

I do believe not all (or even most) relationships start out that way but they can certainly get there when given time to grow and flourish.

Paying attention to the wants, needs and dreams of the other person will put you well on the path to that success.

Taking care of yourself, knowing what you want, communicating your boundaries and committing your life to happiness will put you well on that path.

Taking care of your partner, recognizing their feelings and understanding their dreams will put you well on that path.

Committing to that path together - as a couple - will put you well on that path.

And most of all, BELIEVING that REAL LOVE DOES EXIST will put you well on that path.

Please, pay no attention to your men bashing friends.

Choose not to participate in those conversations where someone is saying something along the lines of “all men…”

If you have a friend who is always “bragging” about her man and never says anything bad about him, choose to believe her rather than roll your eyes at her.

(Did you know in Mama Gena’s - another life coach who I just LOVE - teachings, she REQUIRES a brag session? It doesn’t have to be about a man or your relationship but she requires her students get together with other women and BRAG about their lives!! Cool stuff huh? Rather than talk about all the negative things going on in our lives, why don’t we spend more time bragging about the good stuff? Because it’s socially unacceptable to brag? What does that say about our social rules? Lol)

Lose that limiting belief you hold which whispers to you “She’s clearly hiding the truth. No man is that good.”

Lose your suppressed jealousy of her, trust her and believe with all your heart that she has it and that you can have it too!

What I know for sure:

I believe it exists. I live it in my own life. I believe it for you. I believe it for each and every one of you.

I encourage YOU to believe it too! And I encourage each of you to encourage others to believe it too. Stop the man bashing with the girls and instead, commit to teaching THEM to believe in their own ability to have all the love they could possibly hold.

Much Love,
Mercedes