Who's Responsible for Your Happiness??

If you read my last post, you already know that I did something very honest and true to myself in order to draw my boyfriend back to me. I did what I needed to do and he responded amazingly. It's not always this quick and it's not always this easy, but much of the time, pulling away just a little bit will get a man's attention (and ALWAYS it will get his attention more quickly than becoming clingy will).

As I said, we’ve had our times when things are not so wonderful. I walked away from him at one point and he begged me to come back. It took a long time and a lot of internal work on my part (and his) before I agreed to do that. When I did, we had a long talk about what I wanted and needed in a relationship and what I would and would not put up with (my boundaries).

I told him that I was going to take responsibility for my own happiness. I would not put up with being unhappy ever again. If he did something to “make” me unhappy, it was MY responsibility to fix that, not his…and I told him straight out that when I took responsibility to fix it, that would probaby mean walking away…could be minutes, could be hours, could be days, could be forever….but that I would do whatever I needed to do to be happy.

As long as I’m happy with him and he’s happy with me, we can be in each other’s lives but the second I’m not feeling good…I will fix it in whatever way I need to. So…yes…it was very honest, but I warned him…told him straight up this would happen. If he had any doubts about my strength before, I’ll bet he doesn’t now! :o) And I LIKE that! It makes me feel powerful but in a very feminine kind of way.

He’s not responsible for my happiness (no man is), but if he wants to share a life with me, he’ll do whatever he can to try to make me happy anyway. He knows that…and he’s stepping up to it. He pulled away for a bit there but as soon as I walked away, he stood up and paid attention. I will do it again tomorrow if I have to and he’s just jealous enough to know that it is possible I could find someone I’d rather be with. He knows he could lose me…that’s the key…he knows it and doesn’t want it to happen.

It is so important for each of us to know what makes us happy and to create that happiness for ourselves. Then...we choose who gets to come along for the ride. People are naturally drawn to people who are happy...but that happiness has to be genuine and come from within. For those waiting for Prince Charming to come along...well...it's a long wait. How about instead, we get happy and smile at every frog who we see...kiss those frogs that seem worthy....and keep the frog we love. Prince Charming?? PLEASE! I'd rather have a frog who loves me that a Prince Charming who's all full of himself because he knows he's what every woman is waiting for...

**NOTE: To any man who reads this, please don't take offence to the word "frog". It is said with love and respect.

**NOTE 2: If my boyfriend happens to read this...I love you baby and I'm not interested in trying to change you into Prince Charming. You're the BEST frog EVER!!!